Focus

Being focused is one of the hardest things to do with so many distractions around us each and every single day of our lives. The main difference between each individual is there focus. A focused person is able to hone in and master a particular skill they have or a project they are working on. I need to make better use of my energy and focus in on one thing at a time. If I am writing this blog, I need to cut off all distractions or I lose my train of thought and it becomes very difficult to write. A focused person is always trying to find their ‘why’ in life, they are able to determine what they should be focused on and why it needs to be done.

I need to start making better use of my time and focusing in on one thing at a time rather then mutli-tasking. Although it seems like I am being more productive by working on many things at once I am actually not giving my 100% attention to each task which will hurt me in the long run. If I have a task I need to start completing when they come up and not leaving them for the next day. There is a quote from Benjamin Franklin that says “Never leave that till tomorrow that can be done today”. It is so crucial to work on your dreams today because time is such a precious commodity that should never be wasted. I know the feeling I would get if I lost $20 and I never think of losing time in the same perspective. I need to really start thinking of it that way because we are limited in our time and the more we waste, the less time we have on earth. So I say to you, stay focused on your dreams and never waste time. It is something we will never get back!

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Another day, another grind

Oh man.. I am so tired!! I had such a long day today.. I’m glad it’s finally over. This post does relate very well to my previous post from yesterday. Today was one of those days where I wished I had more time.

After waking up I had to work for a few hours before having some friends over for my wife’s birthday. We had a great time but I missed out on writing a blog for yesterday. That means I will have to do double duty for today.

After finishing this weekend my wife and daughter need some much needed time alone. It has been great having company over everyday since the birth but we are totally drained. I know I need sometime for myself so I can gather my thoughts. I wish I could continue with this post but I am totally
exhausted.

Finding time

I know we all say we wish we had more time but do we really? Would we really be productive with the extra time that’s given to us? That is a very difficult question to answer. I know for myself personally I have a bad habit of wasting time. Even before starting this post I was on Facebook and then I had to check Youtube for any new videos. Both are waste of time because I know I was just on those websites within the last hour. How much could have really changed? I know I need to break this habit.

To start trying to break these habits I need to break the triggers which make me visit these sites. I have both of these websites set to my bookmark on my browser and every time I open my browser I feel the urge to click on them. It is the same urge a smoker may get when he gets into his car for a ride or sees another person smoking. If I don’t click on them before doing anything else it feels like something is off.

I feel like this is a growing problem with our society now, we are all addicted to technology and that instant gratification. From the beeps on our cell phones to the red notifications on our apps, it gives us a false sense of belonging. I know it will be hard to break these habits cold turkey but I need to start gradually fading them out and making better use of my time. Will my life really be effected if I only check social media sites once a day rather then 50? I really doubt it. What are some bad habits you have and want to change or have changed?

The adventure continues

Oh man, I woke up this morning and was feeling super tired and lazy. I woke up earlier then I normally do and got out of bed right away to throw out the garbage so I can say I completed challege 1. So hopefully I can spring out of bed tomorrow and get challenge #2 started. But this leads me into my next segment. As humans we are very lazy creatures, we are programmed to find the path of least resistance and do as little as possible if we do not have the habit of doing something.

Which leads me into what I was talking about yesterday ‘The Power of Habit’ by Charles Duhigg. It has been a very interesting read to say the least. There is a great analogy in the book which states our brains are like onions. On the outside layers, they are programmed for the brain to learn new information. It is used to carry on conversations, laugh at jokes and so on. But on the inside of the ‘brain’ these are where are habits lie. This are things we do everyday and feel off when they aren’t completed in the right sequence. For instance, you wake up every morning to your alarm clock, brush your teeth then have breakfast. If you were to break this habit, something about the day would feel off. The more and more you do things the further it gets rooted into your habits. Our daily habits can be a blessing or a burden depending on how we train our minds.

I know for myself I have plenty of bad habits. I know for myself, I have a really bad habit of pressing the snooze button at least 2 times before I can actually get myself out of bed. I hope by completing my challenge today I can continue to build new morning habits. All of us have bad habits, what are some of yours?

Trucking on

Oh man, last night was rough to say the least. Baby Kayden was up from 12am-5am and I was only able to complete half of Challenge 1 of the 7 day challenge. I was able to wake up and get up within 10 seconds of hearing my alarm, but not 30min early then I usually wake up. Since I failed that challenge, I will be attempting the challenge again tomorrow. Just to let you know how tired I was, my wife woke me up last night to me cradling and bouncing a pillow =\. Haha.

Anyway, I just started a new book ‘The Power of Habit’ by Charles Duhigg. It has been a great read so far and I cant wait to finish it and share my insight on it. Short post but I will continue my writing journey tomorrow!

Keep going!

Here we go, it’s day 2 and I’m back. The hardest part of it all is always getting started, making myself do something that I’m not totally comfortable with.

Anyway, I just finished reading ‘Stop Saying You’re Fine’ by Mel Robbins. It was a great self-help book. So many times in life we are ‘stuck’ and we always say to ourselves that things will be fine when indeed they are not. We continue to fool ourselves into a false sense of security. We continue to do things that don’t make us happy and we never seem to do anything to change our situation. She has several rules to follow in order to get unstuck. One of the rules that really stood out to me was if you have an idea or something you want to act on you must do it within 5 seconds or you start to over analyse the situation. You start to doubt the ideas you have in your head with negative comments like ‘I can’t do that’ or ‘that’s impossible’. The best thing you can do is just act on it and see where it leads, it may be the best thing that has ever happened to you. The book also has a 7 day challenge which I will be attempting.

Day 1 – Face the day – Set the alarm 30min before you normally wake up and get up within 10 seconds of hearing the alarm

Day 2 – Admit it – After waking up, write down an idea you have for the next 5min. Explain how you would feel if you accomplished this

Day 3 – Excercise

Day 4 – Breaking your routine – Taking a different way to work, listening to different music…just about anything to switch up my day.

Day 5 – Eye Contact – Make eye contact with 5 strangers and hold the look and smile back for 4 seconds. (This one seems the toughest, it really puts me out there and I will do my best to complete this challenge)

Day 6 – Go public – Tell someone about your idea, 1 stranger and 1 person you know

Day 7 – Connect – Plan a dinner with a loved one and don’t talk about yourself. Ask about their life and interests.

That wraps up day 2! Be back tomorrow!

Starting over

Wow, it has almost been a year since I posted a blog. I thought I had so much momentum to keep going but it quickly fizzled. That seems to happen with all things new, when things become difficult it is very easy to give up and move on. I want to continue on the path I was on previously and start writing everyday. Although no one will read these blogs it is a great way for me to release my thoughts. 

The past year has been crazy after getting married. I’ve done some travelling and soul searching but the biggest part of it all was I had a baby. Kayden has been the biggest blessing in my life by far, its such an unbelievable feeling to be a father. I have so much joy each and everyday that she is part of my life. I never thought I could love something so much but I have been proven wrong. 

This is a great way to start off my new challenge of writing everyday. Lets hope I can keep this going!